Weight loss update 

Weight loss update 

I’m going to be really honest with you- and therefore myself in this post.

I’ve been in slimming world since April and have lost just over two stone.

It’s been slow and frustrating. But I’ve lost two stone so why am I not happy?

When I was 18 I joined slimming world. I was miles away from home, in university with no car and walked every where. I lost six stone in six months- it was marvellous.

Obviously now at 34, the weight has returned with a few more friends and I’m back at slimming world.

I suppose my disappointment comes from the fact that the losses are slower compared to those from the first time around.

Let’s look at this logically. I HAD to walk every where. I had to walk about a four mile round trip to even attend slimming world in those days.

I’m now 34. I have a job that involves frequent travel. Don’t get excited – it’s around the UK which means hours and hours sat in a car, not moving, not burning up calories.

I’m also older, my body is lazy, as is my mind.

Looking at my weight losses over the past few months, I am lucky to loose three weeks on the trot, and then put on in the fourth. Seems to be a pattern.

I am writing this post because during slimming world class this week, another lady was disappointed with her slow losses. The group discussed this and I had a light bulb moment. 

I HAVE LOST WEIGHT. If I hadn’t joined slimming world God only knows what I would weigh now. 

I’m not always 100% on plan, I slip up, I don’t count the chips I pinch off my boyfriends plate sometimes, and I still like cake.

However I have got that two stone off. I feel so much better! People are starting to notice, but most of all- I like myself a little bit more.

my boyfriend took this photo of me the other day is my lovely new dress from River Island. I actually like this photo! So what if I have a fat face in it, you can still see my confidence and happiness!

So. What I’m saying is, it doesn’t matter if your going for your goal and it seems to be a very long road. You are on that road and you will make it!

Stay positive and focussed!

Laura X

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#winning

#winning

As you guys know, I’ve been having a hard time lately.  So when I entered a blog competition on Naomi’s blog I was shocked and excited to have won! 

My prize was a style session at the River Island style studio at the Birmingham Bullring to try out the new River Island plus size range. Oh, and of course a voucher!

So I set off from the valleys yesterday morning, and headed to my appointment.


River Island is on the third floor of the main mall, and you can not miss it!

The store itself is beautifully laid out, light and airy and easy to move around.

The plus size range was a little harder to spot and was smaller than I expected. However, there is a relaunch in a few weeks time which will include more lines and wide fit shoes!

So the style studio:


The first person I met was Jessica, a personal style assistant. I felt immediately at ease, especially when the prosecco was opened!


Jessica also runs her own blog, My Secret Boutique and contributes to various newspapers and magazines. Check out her Instagram Here and you will see some super styling!

So what did I get?!


I had to get this dress. It’s easy to wear and I think I will wear it in the summer with these shoes, and the winter with tights and boots.

This dress costs £40 and you can shop It here.


This little number is so light I didn’t expect it to look so damn good!

The belt gives me that waist I’ve wanted for years and the cross over is super flattering.

I will be wearing this dress with heels and flats as it’s just so versatile! 

This dress is £40, shop it Here


Ok this little lot! What can I say? Naomi had me in clothes I had never worn or had not worn in years! It truly is an experience having some one else choose clothes for you! I would never have put this together but I loved it! 

Shop them here:

RI Plus Bardot cream top £25
RI Plus wet look leggings £22
RI Plus black bomber jacket £45
Overall, I am definitely going to treat myself to a style session again. I can honestly say that I felt comfortable and at ease and had a really good time!


A big thank you to Naomi for the experience and all the giggles! Check her out in her RI gear, the skirt is part of the new online range! 

Thank you Naomi and River Island for a fabulous day out.

Laura xx

Hard times 

Hard times 

Doesn’t it seem some times that your work life takes over the rest of your life? 

Work has been hard lately and it has taken it out of me a little.

I have been spending lots of time taking care, or trying too, of other people and not really looking out for myself.

Something clicked with me today and I realised how much I had been missing the things I enjoy doing. Like blogging and interacting with other bloggers for example.

I spent some time with friends and family this weekend, and after a lovely walk at barrybados, my head became a little clearer.


We don’t have children, so this little lady is the centre of my universe. I realised how much I love to see her enjoy herself, and how much I’d missed her the last few weeks. I’ve been with her in body but my spirit has been elsewhere. 

I’ve started reorganising my life, de cluttering the house, and getting back to my organised self! 

Life is short and I have so many things to look forward too so time to work hard and achieve my goals!

Next week I have a River Island style session which I won through a lovely blog written by the gorgeous Naomi. Here’s the link: http://www.diamondsnpearls.co.uk/category/life/

So much to look forward too! Back in the game!! 

Stay focussed

Laura xx

She called me fat!!

She called me fat!!

So this week I experienced road rage- from the passenger of a car that nearly hit me.

I live in a dead end street, we all use the dead end to turn around and there is a children’s play ground there. Everyone knows to slow down.

A young girl came bombing up the road as I was turning and didn’t see me. We both had our windows open and she apologised. ‘No worries’ I said, ‘take it easy’.

The older lady passenger started screaming at me. I assume she was the mother of the young driver. Also, I assume she was the mother of the children in the back seat.

‘Fu*k off you fat slag! Go f*ck yourself you fat bitch’.

It went on and on. The only thing I could say is ‘what’s wrong with you?’ And then I drove off. 

My first feeling was fright. I’ve never been screamed at like that. Considering what had happened I thought I was calm about the fact she nearly smashed up the car I’ve had for only two weeks.

My second feeling was anger. Not only for the insults but also for the example she was setting her family.

Is it ok to insult a person’s appearance? Is it ok to not admit mistakes? Is it ok to do this in front of your children? Is this how to lead by example?

No. No. No. No.

This is not ok.

I’m dealing with my weight and trying my best. I’ve lost nearly two stone and was so proud of myself. Well I was, until that moment.

I wanted to run away and grab some cake. I felt like no matter what I did, there would always be some one to tell me I wasn’t good enough.

I was too frightened to go back to the house and tell my boyfriend what had happened so I drove away and phoned him! He was furious!! He walked down to their house and took photos of their number plate while he waited for them to come out of the house. They didn’t.

I came home after a few hours. I had calmed down and now, after a few days reflection, I have decided that I don’t care what she thinks.

I have done well and I am proud of my weight loss. I’m an educated girl with a job I love that I like to think I’m good at. I have achieved lots of things in my life that I have had to go out and work for. 

That woman will not take my achievements away from me because she called me fat. 

I know nothing about her or her life.  All I know is that I feel sorry for her children, because I personally think that the example she is setting then does not set them up for a life in the community they currently live in, or the world they have yet to explore.

Stay kind.

Laura xx

Earning girlfriend points

Earning girlfriend points

My beloved had been invited to what I would describe as an all day birthday party, involving lots of football and lots of alcohol. Stop the press – I was actually invited too.

Beloved goes to lots of things with the boys that I do not get invited too. Mainly rock concerts or rock festivals which aren’t my thing, however I still don’t like to be left out!

I really wanted to go so that his squad knew I exsisted, but there was one thing that was putting me off. The main event- the football.

I’m not one for sports, never have been and it’s not something I’m afraid to admit!

However, it was a Wales Vs Norther Ireland match so I though the atmosphere would be good so off I went!

I was under the impression that my beloved goes to dirty little bars where you have to wipe your feet on the way out.

Um nope. We went to this cool venue called the Tram Shed.  Well I never, he kept that quiet. This place is a five minute walk from Cardiff central train station and easy to find! It shares its spot with the Waiting Room a smart cafe and bar. They even have a cute garden area to enjoy the sunshine! What more could I girl want? 


So to the football. We sat on the balcony over looking a huge room with a huge screen.

The drinks were flowing and my favourite was well stocked, that beauty that is Absolut Mandarin. Bliss.

The football was, well, Ummmm, over 90 minutes long. Like I said, I’m honest, it’s not for me.

However the atmosphere was immense. It’s the only thing I ‘get’ at sports events. The passion and belief in a person’s chosen team.


I mean look at this lot! It was awesome!

The other thing about watching a sports event in Wales is the singing. Hearing the Welsh Nationa Athem sung by the crowd is spine tingling, put it on your bucket list.

All in all, I had a much better day than expected! The people were nice (we are now Facebook pals obvs) the venue was fab, and the weather was kind.

My beloved is impressed I didn’t manage to fall asleep during the match,  and I even got breakfast in bed this morning. Winning.

So, here’s my advice. Just because you are a couple does not mean you have to live in each other’s pockets and like all the same things. Good for you if you do though! However, it is important to show a little interest, put yourself out of your comfort zone and meet new people.

Or basically as I said to myself, put your face on and suck it up!


Have a great weekend

Laura x

Feeling loved 💗

Feeling loved 💗

During the last few weeks, I have been really unwell with the campylobacter virus.  If you have had it, you know how miserable it can be!

It started at work which was awful, and a few hours later I was being sick in a bush while walking my dog.  Another classy moment for me.

My boyfriend was away, rocking at download festival, so I felt really sorry for myself!

My best friend turned up with medication, food, drinks and even took my dog out for me. She’s a legend! One day, she was with me for hours even though she had ‘just popped in’.  Turns out she stayed because I was so pale she was worried about me. 


Love this woman!

My work buddies have also been checking in with me daily, sending me jokes, gossip and generally cheering me up!

Other friends have gone to great lengths to find dairy free biscuits (people with the virus are advised to avoid dairy) as well as delivering lots of lovely magazines!

I’ve never really been poorly so it raised my spirits knowing how many people care about me, and I’m extremely thankful.

I’m still on the mend (and really pale!) but would like to go back to work tomorrow to see how I feel! 

Look after your loved ones
Laura xx

June 19th

June 19th

June the 19th this year, probably the 18th last year and most likely the 20th next year.  I don’t care what day it is, I know that I will be hiding in the house.

There are lots of people out there like me.  We are grieving for our lost loved ones, and always will be.  This year June the 19th is father’s day and, without my hero here to spoil, I will yet again be grieving over my loss.

It never ever gets any easier for people like us.  There is always some reminder of that massive part of our lives that is missing.  Special days like the 19th June, birthdays, Christmas and those special occasions that may or may not happen in our future.  I will always grieve for not being able to share days, moments and mile stones with him.

I can’t tell you when I lost my father because I can’t remember.  I believe that is one of my coping mechanisms – simply to stop thinking.  However what I can tell you is that it is probably more than five years, but less than ten years.

His death was sudden and unexpected; the shock still chokes me now.  At the beginning the main concern was my mother and brother, and somewhere along the way I forgot to look after myself.  Then by the time I realised the overwhelming power of my grief, the only concern people ever expressed towards me, was in the form of the question:  ‘How is your mother?   I got used to it.  I got used to what I still feel is a total lack of concern to my well being.  I will always grieve.  Some days my grief is so dark it consumes me.  No one knows this because no one ever asks.  Like I said, I am used to it.

However, when you find yourself alone on most fathers’ day since you lost your dad, things don’t get so easy, and the grief can take over.

It is just another day – sure.  But it is a day when Facebook is not even a place you can escape and watch funny cat videos.  Your time line is filled with photos of happy family scenes that break your heart.  So you avoid that.

Restaurants are full of generations of families enjoying their precious moments together, bouncing great grandchildren on their knees.  I would absolutely do anything to have such a beautiful scene to call my own.  But it is not possible, so I avoid that.

I can’t even walk my dog, without bumping into ‘father of the year’.

Everybody has a unique way of dealing with their grief – mine is not likely to be the same as yours.  But that is ok.  I have accepted that I am not allowed to be selfish with my grief.  However, on June the 19th, where the reminders of my loss will be drowning me, I will be selfish.  I shall wallow in bed until the late morning, and eat my lunch in my pjs while I cry on and off throughout the day, in the safety of my own home, away from judgemental eyes.  You know what?  That’s also ok.

It is also ok to reach out to people like me.  If you have friends like me, who you know will feel like that they have to lock themselves away – reach out to them.  It is ok to send a text saying I’m thinking of you, some emojis or a rude joke.  It doesn’t matter, just having you thinking of them will lift their spirits. Trust me.

I do not begrudge anyone their special day.  I only wish I had realised just how very precious days like the 19th of June were.  I believe that life can be unfair, that it is short, and that it is extremely precious.  It is with this in mind, that I wish you the most beautiful 19th June with your loved ones.  Love and cherish them, make memories and spend quality time together.

Laura xx